I've been thinking a lot lately. And you know what's frustrating about thinking a lot is that oftentimes, I don't come up with specific ideas or conclusions. Sometimes I make new goals, sometimes I have small realizations, but thinking - for me - typically just leads to a stupor of thought, more questioning or more thinking.
But I've seen a lot these past few weeks. And I think, for once, I do have something to say about it.
I've seen friends rise and fall and succeed and fail. And I have done all of those things, too.
It's been a crazy few weeks.
And here's what I've come to find:
Religion is like weight loss. You have to do it for yourself, because you want to, and because it makes you feel good. You don't have to prove anything to anyone and if you believe you DO have something to prove, you're likely not going to be as successful.
Truth is everywhere, and it's okay to accept that and embrace it.
Families are good. It's okay to be patient with them. They need it the most, anyway.
Thinking about where you want to be and who you want to be when you're 65 years old really really really puts things into perspective.
Sometimes you make choices just because. And they may not be the "right" choice or the "wrong" choice - but because it's a choice you already made, you can MAKE IT the right choice. Accept that. And move on.
People matter more than grades. And if I'm ever an employer, I will believe and accept that with all my heart, and hire you even if you didn't graduate college with a 4.0.
There's no reason you can't do what you love. And if you're worried about someone loving you for doing what you love - don't. If someone doesn't love YOU (the you that's doing what you love) you shouldn't be with them anyway.
You should be happy first, and then worry about making money. Because the first option is typically more in your control than the second. And it's more important, too.
And - as my dear friend has been singing in my voice coaching classes from "Chess" - when the crazy wheel slows down, where will I be?
Think about it. When all that is hectic and "important" goes away, what will remain? Who will you be? Is it good? Do you like that person?
I think I'm still trying to figure that out, myself. But it's certainly helped me put things into perspective the last few weeks....