Sunday, July 18, 2010

The "Me" Thing

A LESSON EVERYONE MUST LEARN

I'm apologizing to my father in advance for saying something about a matter I can't directly tell him (if ever you're reading). And to mom because I am not choosing what to post and I am posting a problem that should be kept only in our family, which the whole world can read it.

But I feel safe to blog this since I only have 11 followers and I think it is rare for someone to visit this page anyway.

I am now a teen, close to being an adult. My brain is functioning well so I get to know what is right from wrong. Nobody has to force me or no one brain washed me to say these things in front of my monitor. I just want the people to respect my opinion. I'll also try to be polite as much as possible to share with you my dilemma.

Whenever there is a problem that I am posting in here, that's because I WANT SOMETHING FOR A CHANGE. But I don't like people getting mad at me.

What am I talking about?

Lately, I am not liking a situation about my family. . .

Ok, Let's get it straight. Dad works abroad to support our financial needs. And when I say 'our' it ONLY INCLUDES his kids (that's us), and what his kids need. And I am not expecting other people, even his relatives.

Why am I saying this? I don't want to sound selfish but he has to stop sending money, packages and etc. to his relatives. They are not learning to work hard to get what they want ON THEIR OWN. It is us, especially me, who loses something when the time we need it (Like Money).

I always have to do things in a hard way just to get what I WANT. To understand how hard to get it, to know what obstacles I have to face. Just like how dad is doing to send us what we NEED. He gets tired, and he has to be away from us just to support us.

('Wants' and 'Needs' are totally different. Try to understand and you'll get what I mean.)

My question is, my father's siblings are not babies anymore. they have their own husbands and wives, some work abroad too for the sake of their family's needs. But why won't they just ask from them? What's the use of working abroad but still they have to ask some from dad (more money, send me this, send me that!)?

Pamilya ng pamilya ginugulo sa panghihingi ng mga bagay bagay na dapat sila ang nagsusumikap na mapundar!

When the fact me, his own daughter never asks too much like they do. Kami kasi ang nawawalan. Yung dapat sa amin ay napupunta sa inyo. Hindi nga ako tumatawag lagi sa ama ko para manghingi lang ng ganito ganyan na hindi naman talaga kinakailangan pa. Ako pinagsusumikapan ko muna yung mga naisin ko. Kayo na mas matanda and capable na magtrabaho hindi niyo pa magawa. Sino nagugulo? Kami!


It is not bad to give something to them if they need help. But giving them all the time, I don't think that is right anymore. And, what are they giving back in return? I guess that would be nothing. NOTHING AT ALL!

Mahirap mabuhay ngayon, kaming mga anak niya nakikipagtulungan sa sitwasyon ngayon. Kung ano ang meron yun ang pinagtatiyagaan. Pero bakit napaka-unfair?! kung sino pa ang HINDI MGA ANAK, sila pa ang mas masahol manghingi!


I feel so disappointed. It's like we're not my father's priority, but them. Kaya si dad din ang nahihirapan.

Parang nababalewala nalang yung mga sinusukli ko sa pagbibigay ni daddy ng kailanagn namin. Nababalewala lang yung pagsisikap ko makakuha ng matataas na marka sa paaralan, hindi magkaroon ng hindi magandang record sa school, magtiis na hindi gastusin ang pera na natabi ko sa mga hindi mahahalagang bagay, sa pagsunod sa mga utos, at sa pagiging mabuti at responsableng anak dahil sila hindi na nila kelangan gawin yung mga ginagawa ko para makahingi sila.

Pinapahirapan ko pa sarili ko na maging RESPONSABLE NA ANAK. Sana matagal ko narin ginagawa ang gingawa nila. Kung siguro naging ganun ako malamang hindi ako yung taong nagsisikap pa mag-aral!

I have noticed this before when I was 10 or 12 years old. I just couldn't speak because I am scared before, scared being scolded, grounded, or lose anything that I have. But why should I be scared now if what I AM FIGHTING FOR IS CORRECT!

This has to change! I AM ENTERING IN COLLEGE AND DAD IS GETTING OLDER. WE NEED MORE SAVINGS FOR OUR FUTURE NEEDS. AND DAD WILL NEVER WORK FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE TO CONTINUE GIVING TOO MUCH FROM HIS SIDE.

I am not saying this to step on them. I'm being matured enough. And I have the right.

I DIDN'T ASK TOO MUCH BEFORE BECAUSE I AM JUST STARTING NOW! I NEED IT TO FINISH COLLEGE. THERE'S A LOT OF EXPENSES TO PAY, FOR ME TO GRADUATE. I ALSO WANT DAD TO BE PROUD OF ME ONE DAY THAT I FINALLY FINISHED STUDYING AND I CAN GET MY OWN JOB TO HELP. TO BUY EVERYTHING I WANTED WITHOUT ASKING MONEY FROM HIM.

To finish college is one of my biggest dream in life. Kahit yun lang ang matupad masaya na ako. marami na kasi ako magaagwa pag nakatapos.





I am so sorry. I wasn't able to be polite as possible.

Please don't get me wrong and I hope you have an open mind to understand very well what I am trying to say. It's really hard to keep it to myself when my heart is going to explode!

IF THIS CONTINUES, I'M REALLY GOING TO REBEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




I'm sorry.
Post a Comment

The "Me" Thing

A LESSON EVERYONE MUST LEARN

I'm apologizing to my father in advance for saying something about a matter I can't directly tell him (if ever you're reading). And to mom because I am not choosing what to post and I am posting a problem that should be kept only in our family, which the whole world can read it.

But I feel safe to blog this since I only have 11 followers and I think it is rare for someone to visit this page anyway.

I am now a teen, close to being an adult. My brain is functioning well so I get to know what is right from wrong. Nobody has to force me or no one brain washed me to say these things in front of my monitor. I just want the people to respect my opinion. I'll also try to be polite as much as possible to share with you my dilemma.

Whenever there is a problem that I am posting in here, that's because I WANT SOMETHING FOR A CHANGE. But I don't like people getting mad at me.

What am I talking about?

Lately, I am not liking a situation about my family. . .

Ok, Let's get it straight. Dad works abroad to support our financial needs. And when I say 'our' it ONLY INCLUDES his kids (that's us), and what his kids need. And I am not expecting other people, even his relatives.

Why am I saying this? I don't want to sound selfish but he has to stop sending money, packages and etc. to his relatives. They are not learning to work hard to get what they want ON THEIR OWN. It is us, especially me, who loses something when the time we need it (Like Money).

I always have to do things in a hard way just to get what I WANT. To understand how hard to get it, to know what obstacles I have to face. Just like how dad is doing to send us what we NEED. He gets tired, and he has to be away from us just to support us.

('Wants' and 'Needs' are totally different. Try to understand and you'll get what I mean.)

My question is, my father's siblings are not babies anymore. they have their own husbands and wives, some work abroad too for the sake of their family's needs. But why won't they just ask from them? What's the use of working abroad but still they have to ask some from dad (more money, send me this, send me that!)?

Pamilya ng pamilya ginugulo sa panghihingi ng mga bagay bagay na dapat sila ang nagsusumikap na mapundar!

When the fact me, his own daughter never asks too much like they do. Kami kasi ang nawawalan. Yung dapat sa amin ay napupunta sa inyo. Hindi nga ako tumatawag lagi sa ama ko para manghingi lang ng ganito ganyan na hindi naman talaga kinakailangan pa. Ako pinagsusumikapan ko muna yung mga naisin ko. Kayo na mas matanda and capable na magtrabaho hindi niyo pa magawa. Sino nagugulo? Kami!


It is not bad to give something to them if they need help. But giving them all the time, I don't think that is right anymore. And, what are they giving back in return? I guess that would be nothing. NOTHING AT ALL!

Mahirap mabuhay ngayon, kaming mga anak niya nakikipagtulungan sa sitwasyon ngayon. Kung ano ang meron yun ang pinagtatiyagaan. Pero bakit napaka-unfair?! kung sino pa ang HINDI MGA ANAK, sila pa ang mas masahol manghingi!


I feel so disappointed. It's like we're not my father's priority, but them. Kaya si dad din ang nahihirapan.

Parang nababalewala nalang yung mga sinusukli ko sa pagbibigay ni daddy ng kailanagn namin. Nababalewala lang yung pagsisikap ko makakuha ng matataas na marka sa paaralan, hindi magkaroon ng hindi magandang record sa school, magtiis na hindi gastusin ang pera na natabi ko sa mga hindi mahahalagang bagay, sa pagsunod sa mga utos, at sa pagiging mabuti at responsableng anak dahil sila hindi na nila kelangan gawin yung mga ginagawa ko para makahingi sila.

Pinapahirapan ko pa sarili ko na maging RESPONSABLE NA ANAK. Sana matagal ko narin ginagawa ang gingawa nila. Kung siguro naging ganun ako malamang hindi ako yung taong nagsisikap pa mag-aral!

I have noticed this before when I was 10 or 12 years old. I just couldn't speak because I am scared before, scared being scolded, grounded, or lose anything that I have. But why should I be scared now if what I AM FIGHTING FOR IS CORRECT!

This has to change! I AM ENTERING IN COLLEGE AND DAD IS GETTING OLDER. WE NEED MORE SAVINGS FOR OUR FUTURE NEEDS. AND DAD WILL NEVER WORK FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE TO CONTINUE GIVING TOO MUCH FROM HIS SIDE.

I am not saying this to step on them. I'm being matured enough. And I have the right.

I DIDN'T ASK TOO MUCH BEFORE BECAUSE I AM JUST STARTING NOW! I NEED IT TO FINISH COLLEGE. THERE'S A LOT OF EXPENSES TO PAY, FOR ME TO GRADUATE. I ALSO WANT DAD TO BE PROUD OF ME ONE DAY THAT I FINALLY FINISHED STUDYING AND I CAN GET MY OWN JOB TO HELP. TO BUY EVERYTHING I WANTED WITHOUT ASKING MONEY FROM HIM.

To finish college is one of my biggest dream in life. Kahit yun lang ang matupad masaya na ako. marami na kasi ako magaagwa pag nakatapos.





I am so sorry. I wasn't able to be polite as possible.

Please don't get me wrong and I hope you have an open mind to understand very well what I am trying to say. It's really hard to keep it to myself when my heart is going to explode!

IF THIS CONTINUES, I'M REALLY GOING TO REBEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




I'm sorry.
Post a Comment